The Mum

The following is an edited version of a telephone interview given by a stay at home Mum working and living in Bergamo to the editor.

INTERVIEW DATE: 13.05.20

How are you doing today?

I am good. Honestly coming out of the lockdown has been harder for me. The uncertainty for our families future and so many others, this has me scared. During the lockdown I felt more focused like I had a responsibility. Not just for my family but to everyone else. I knew my actions then and now could impact many. I did not break the rules because that could lead to someone getting sick. I did not go back home to my family because the risk would travel with me. I stayed as strong as I could. Posting more regularly on Instagram was a good reassurance for my family… they knew we were okay… We were the lucky ones. 

What worries you the most about this pandemic?

I am worried about all the people who are sick and all of the families who have lost people to this. 

I am worried about the economy. I am not sure how this is going to unravel.

What is the nicest thing someone has done for you?

My husband has been an amazing lifeline during all of this. I have some friends & family who stayed in touch. Almost everyday I had a message from my Mother and Aunt telling me she was thinking of us. My Mother and Aunt organised medicine shipment for me today when I had thought I had run out of options. Finally a workout group that kept me laughing and jumping almost everyday, kept me smiling and made me feel strong!

What was the nicest thing you did for someone else?

I tried to be there for people as best I could. I don’t know whether or not that made a difference, but it was good vibes and energy I was giving back to the universe. So that has to amount to something …. right?… Also I stayed home! 

What are your kids saying about the virus?

Our son is a bit young to understand what is happening. I think this time has been good for him, he has mum and dad all to himself. He said ‘coronavirus’ yesterday when we were out cycling… I am not sure he understood its meaning. But, it hit me hard. I think at the beginning of this one of the hardest parts was the sense of powerlessness. Not feeling like we had any way of protecting our loved ones from it. I felt responsible…this is the world I chose to bring you into…my child… you deserve better. We all do. 

In five years from now, what do you want to remember about the virus?

I want to remember how hard I worked… to remember how good that felt. I want to remember that it is okay not to be perfect all the time.

I want to remember this as a time where our lives restarted, when we reenterd this world, as better people. It is foolish to think that this has not changed us. It has, I value so much more and need so much less. 

As Karl Sagan said ‘For all our failings, despite our limitations and fallibilities, we humans are capable of greatness’.

2 thoughts on “The Mum

  1. Scott says:

    There is a lot of wisdom and appreciation in this interview…and a strong sense of having become a better person during this terrible time.

  2. Irene plunkett says:

    What a very thoughtful and insightful interview ! As an over 65 cocooner I have so much admiration for young Mum’s and Dad’s quarentined with small children away from the support of family knowing that they are surrounded by loss and great uncertainty . So tough . Its frightening not knowing what life will be like when we ‘ step out ‘ again into a life that has changed so much from what we knew previously . It takes courage to stay in and as much courage to step back into life again I think . Each new experience is a learning and its what we do with that learning that makes the difference . So I would like to send my great respect and regard to this young Mum who has come through what is the most challenging experience, stronger , more empathetic, aware and compassionate and with a moral compass that will guide her and her family to walk the earth differently and with strength and courage . This pandemic has produced so many hero’s and not all of them wear cloaks !! Very many are young Mum’s .
    From a follower in Ireland

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